New perspective might mean new hope
Back pain, addiction, financial struggle… the list can go on and on. You are probably all too familiar with the long list of things you wish were different. Stick with me for a few moments and track out what exactly might be holding you back and keeping you in the pattern of unsuccess/ dis-ease/suffering.
At some point in our lives, we have all experienced some sort of trauma. The funny thing about trauma is that it is really like any other experience… it is your own experience and your perception of the event that makes it into trauma or something else entirely. So, let’s break it down a little and define trauma, so we can discover that with the same structure in mind.
Trauma is defined in dictionary as “a deeply distressing or disturbing experience”. The thing about using this general definition that stops there is that everyone has their own interpretation of what is distressing or disturbing. Driving fast might feel really fun and freeing for someone but for someone else, even in that same car, it might feel like the most terrifying experience and an inescapable horror. One car, two people, way different experiences! So, let’s add to this trauma definition a little and think of it more like:
Next let’s look at what happens when you experience trauma.
Scientists believe that our subconscious mind takes in everything that we experience and stores it away. EVERYTHING. This is especially true in the first 7 or so years of life! (More on that another day!) We hold on to this information and it goes into one of two different categories.
#1 This is just the way things are.
#2 This is not how things should be.
When have an event that hurts us in some way. Anything from a fall, to a death of a loved one, to a broken heart, our body listens to how others around us are responding. At some point you decide on a response or a behavior. This can lead to responses or behaviors like: you don’t like heights, you fear death, you don’t trust companions in relationships. Sometimes if the trauma is assigned a strong response, your subconscious mind builds energetic and physical defenses to make sure that you are kept safe. Your body can eventually be part of the learned response to trauma.
You may have an area of your body that just does not respond to treatment of any kind. Massage, acupuncture, chiropractic, pharmaceutical interventions or sometimes even surgery. In the energetic way of thinking, this is your body’s way of holding onto wisdom that is keeping you safe. Rigid tissue is literally like body armor, keeping you safe from more trauma. Unfortunately, this also limits the function and movement of muscles, organs, whole body systems or areas of life ~ like relationships. Struggles with relationships often comes from an energetic wall built around the heart, sometimes called a Heart Wall. It functions to keep the organ of the heart from perceived vulnerability brought on from trauma, but it also makes sending and receiving love in your life almost impossible. It also can affect the actual function of the heart itself. When you have a heart wall, messages from the heart must go through that wall your subconscious mind believes is there. Leaving the messages sent and received by the heart muffled or distorted from passing through the memories of trauma that built the wall.
Each person's individual learned behavior that comes from their traumatic experience is unique to that person. No two people will come out exactly the same. This is key to unlocking the grip that the trauma has on you! It is your story. It is your way of keeping safe. It is also your purgative to change that story to best fit allowing you to live to the fullest.
Sending you endless love and gratitude! ~ Sarah
Trauma ~ the way we internalize events that happen around us and what meaning and emotion we assign to those events.